A relationship between the two persons depends on the chords of understanding that link them and their  readiness to compromise and sacrifice for strengthening those chords. A relationship  is by heart but with a mind in it.  It is well known that maintaining a relationship is far more difficult than building a relationship. The basic issues of concern while building and maintaining a relationship are :

• Truth prevails : Be sure that nothing but the truth prevails. Artificial behavior can camouflage something temporarily but not for ever. Your deception and dishonesty will be revealed somehow to your partner. It could be either your body language itself or your friend or some unknown person who has nothing to do with the relationship.
• Don’t cheat : Before cheating on your partner, ponder about all the possible consequences of it and above all the possibility of your partner cheating you the same way you are going to cheat. When you cheat your partner don’t expect the partner to be faithful to you.
• Togetherness : Try to be as much together as possible. Your friends or job related commitments could create a invisible wall between the two and make you drift apart. Try avoiding this sort of circumstances.
• Reciprocate : A strong relationship involves reciprocal action. Living under the same roof but without any interaction could bring a sour taste in the relationship. When you love your partner dearly, and your partner does not respond with the same intensity the things could go worst.
• Conversation: Every problem can be sorted out by talking it out. The way you talk is also of prime importance. Study the conversation that you have with your partner. Is it like what lovers do or is it like what two friends do or is it like a teacher talking to a student or is it like two professionals in the corporate world sorting out some business issue.
• Friendship: A proposal of love can risk your friendship. You may lose a good friend forever.
• Commitment : Some people have a phobia for commitments. For them a relationship means commitment. Once they commit they would never like to pull back. Some fear the fallout of a break in relationship. Everything needs to be sorted out and handled carefully to build a strong relationship.
• Praise : A partner should be praises, complemented and motivate wherever necessary. This makes the relationship far more stronger.
• Jealousy: Do not leave any scope for jealousy in your relationship with your partner. If your partner is earning better than you, accept his/ her earning potential and give due complements.

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The more you think about the dimensions of dating the more complex it seems to be.  The minds and the thoughts within two persons can never be the same. Dating is a platform to judge to what extent the thoughts of the two partners match with each other and to what extent can they compromise to make each other feel comfortable. Some of the basics of dating differ with the sexes while some basics remain the same.

Dating Basics for men: Try making the date as comfortable and as relaxed as possible.  Take out some extra time and effort to prepare yourself for the occasion. Cleanliness is the most basic thing that the women look for.  Your clothes, room and even your car should be clean and tidy. Take care that your kitchen and bedroom are spick and span. Punctuality is one of the qualities  that a females looks in for in any male.

When you have give the time, sticking to the schedule make a female feel  that you respect and value her company.  The clothes should be neat and ironed. Have a wash before going out on date. Women  hunt for details.  The nails should be neatly clipped, the ears should be cleaned of wax, the nose hair should be trimmed, the corner of the eyes should be cleaned thoroughly.

Dating Basics for women : Try to look great and beautiful  but not a show off.  Wear the makeup that suits you. Be frank. Take care that you do not bluff. Give witty and if possible mysterious answers. Men can be driven  crazy by enigma. A short and sweet date can build a lifelong relationship.  Let the man pay if he is already acquainted to you, but if he is of less acquaintance then decide the possibility of Going Dutch  before the date.

Females are considered prerogative and they should take some advantage of that like being  a bit late for the date. Never take anything for granted. Never talk about matters which are too personal like your ex boyfriends. This could ruin the date.  Talk as if you are thinking and then talking. Men like females who think and then talk

Dating basics for both men and women : Comfort and a feeling of relaxation are the basics of dating.  Avoid blind dates and first dates at isolated places or in privacy. Let the element of anonymity prevail for some time especially when dating is going to follow the online chatting.  Be humorous while speaking. Show interest and make yourself interesting.  Be optimistic and clear in your relationship. Use scents and / or deodorants after knowing each others preferences.

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The term “rules” sounds  too rigid especially with reference to dating. Most of us say that we should be comfortable while dating. Most of us are aware of the fact that if we abide and stick to a specific set of rules we would be never comfortable. First of all you have to understand what ‘dating rules’ mean. It is said that everything is good in limits.

It is these limitations of dating that when mutually agreed upon or when you just stick to them can be called  the ‘dating rules’. The dating rules differ from age to age, person to person and culture to culture. The general dating rules could be as follows.

• Presentable: Try to look as presentable as you can but be sure you do not over do it. Trying to be a show off can prove to be negative point.
• Punctuality: Access the situation. Online chatting gives an idea about the flexibility of punctuality. If the date is scheduled at 6pm in the evening and you know and sure that your date is usually late by 5 minutes, be late by 2-3 minutes, but not more than that. If you are as late as late as your partner, it would be difficult to judge the seriousness of the relationship.
• Humor: Always have a touch of humor in what you speak. Be sure that the humor should be relevant to the topic being discussed, not irrelevant. Take care that the date does not become boring.
• Compliment and Praise : Give complements and shower praises where ever needed. Be sure this does not sound flattery. Flattery can make you look like a flirt and spoil the date.
• Interest : Show interest in your partner and the partner will show interest in you. Please keep your limitations in not being too personal. Try focusing on the topics of general interest.
• Frankness: Be frank in your response. If you like to meet your date again express it, but if you do not want to see him or her again it is always better saying it in the most sober way that is possible.
• Preferences: Dating is a very personal issue. You are the best judge as to whom to go out with on a date and whom not to go out with. Take care that your professional acquaintances and circumstantial friends do not influence your decisions.
• Comfortable : Be natural and study what issues you can compromise for the company of your date. Do not lie or bluff to make yourself and your partner feel comfortable because this dram is not going to work out for ever.
• Optimistic: Be a positive thinker. If the thought of both of you do not match and both are not ready to compromise then its better just having a good friendship rather than developing the relations further.

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Dating specially with reference to the western culture is an act of socializing between couples trying to build up and access the possibility of a relationship. The nature of the relationship is again dependent on  the couple.

Dating can be classified on the bases of different parameters such as culture, media, limit, and  number of people involved.

• Culture : Usually the dating of the couple is arranged by the parents or the elders. This sort of dating is aimed at accessing the extent to which the couple is comfortable to each other. This also aims at sorting out difference if any among them. Sometimes when dating is not permitted in the society the couples engage is secret dating.
• Media : Dating is usually in person meeting at some public or private place. In this age of internet the dating can be online too. The online dating could serve as a platform prior to the dating in person which is face to face. After the introduction of the web cam, there is hardly any difference left between the online dating and dating in person. Anonymity is the basic advantage of online dating. It is this feature that makes online dating more popular and comfortable among the people seeking date partners.
• Limit : Dating can also be classified on the basis of limits to the relationship. This could be worked out while chatting on the net before you date in person. Basically it depends on the couple to what extent they want to extend their relationship. The duration of dating could be the lunch time or just roaming and dining together and then parting or else some could decide to stick to each other till the next morning or even the whole life. The dating could be just one night stand. Thus it all depends on the couple and their mutual expectations.
• Number of people involved : Usually dating involves two people, a couple , and this is called standard dating. When two couples enjoy a date at the same location and at the same time it is double date. When a number of couples enjoy a date that same time and location it is called group date.
• Blind date : This type of dating is among the participants who have never met each other personally. Nowadays a blind date can hardly be 100% blind. Usually most of the people hesitate and avoid blind dates. The online chatting and exchange of SMS and emails usually precede a blind date. In this sort of circumstances the blind date is for the purpose of face to face meeting in person.

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• The dating books help us to know the general psychology, approach , and attitude of the genders.
• It is always better to know something rather than be totally ignorant of it.
• Precaution is better than cure. The dating books can highlight and mention all the possibilities related to dating.
• These books are written by authors who have deep insight into the process and concept of dating. The black and white matter in the books is someone’s experience. It is always better to learn from someone’s experience rather than experience it yourself and then learning the lesson.
• The dating books are of three types , just for men, just for women, general. So you have a choice. Over and above this no one can stop you from purchasing the book meant for the opposite sex. Thus if you are a male you can know the general psychology of the females and if you are a female you can know the general psychology of the males.
• Most of the books have a simple and lucid language that is easy to understand and follow.
• When the books are available there is hardly any need of a teacher around you. One thing anyone can be sure about is that a teacher whose subject of domain is dating will never be a welcome at the site of the inaction of his teaching or where his teaching is being put to practical application.

The dating book have their own limitations, some of which are as the following :

• Sometimes the opinions of the author are too general. These generalized conclusion may not be applicable to everyone because everyone’s mentality is not the same.
• It is usually found that the book on dating are gender biased. Most of these books focus on attracting the women around. The books for women are far more less than that for men.
• The content of the book should be read thoroughly and even after that it the situational analysis that dominates the situation. The person should have presence of mind for the practical application of what is mentioned in the books.
• While putting the contents of the book into application one should be aware of the culture and tradition prevailing in the author’s country and that prevailing around the reader.

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Dating ? A Blind yes can be quite risky. On the contrary a blind no can be the most foolish act of your life. Dating is one of the first steps towards building of a relationship. Dating provides a couple with a platform to know each other. Every coin has got two sides Same is the case with the concept of Dating

Dating in western and developed countries is considered as an act of socializing.  On the other hand in the conservative society of the orthodox who usually hail from the villages, dating is a taboo. Once a male or a female is seen in company of the opposite sex, all sort of gossips start.

These gossips spread like wild fire in the forest.  So the first thing depends on your thoughts.  You have to decide whether dating would be acceptable in your society or not. If you are sighted by some elders of your society would you dare to speak to them in public with your dating partner beside you.

Dating could be basically of two types, one with the permission of the elders at home and the other without the permission. This classification is important because it is possible that your parents may be sponsoring you or may be your are quite matured and earning quite well to be independent from your parents.

If your parents are broad minded and allow you to go out then it is very good but if your parents are narrow minded and orthodox it is possible that you may be inviting trouble especially financial crisis. If you are dating with someone and  trying to keep it a secret then be sure no matter how much you try, it is never going to remain a secret, at least not from you. In the course of keeping this a secret it is possible that someone may try to take disadvantage of it and seek undue favors from you.

Dating with the permission of elders is something which can be one of the best moments of life. In this sort of situation none of the two is feared of anyone, are fearless and quite bold.  The two are using the dating concept to know each other and using it as a preparation  to marry and lead life jointly in the future.

While dating one should take the following precautions :

• Never say yes to blind dates.
• Never have a first date at a isolated place or in seclusion.
• Never reveal your true self if you are on the internet and trying to date someone.
• Ensure comfort
• If you are dating, keep a close friend of yours updated with it. Ask him or her to phone you regularly.
• Try to decide the bill payer. Usually it is the male but sometimes it could be paying individually for self.

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In our present day society, dating is a very common social activity among people of both the sexes and of different age groups. In such an activity, a pair of persons or a group of people may engage in such an activity. The purpose of getting involved in such an activity is to enable each other to assess whether they can set up a private and personal relationship between them selves which may ultimately lead them to live as a married couple.

To be successful in your dating, you are required to follow some unwritten rules. For a person who is going for his/her date first time in his/her life, the person may not be aware of them. They may get advice about how one should go about it from their peers or seniors. Even you will find many internet sites which will provide you suitable dating advices. These tips are given by people who have lots of experience and also are a good observer of human behavior.

Even a person, who is not new in dating, will get new ideas from these tips to make his dates more enjoyable and fruitful. No one is an expert and every one can learn something from the experience of another person from his/her dating experience as a dating tips.

Some of the dating tips collected from different internet sites are given below:

• Before going for a date, you should make some preparation about it. You should not be half hearted about going for a date. You should try to find out some background information about the person whom you are going to meet. Also, you should also be prepared about failure of your date and so you should not take it very seriously.
• You should try to look your best at the time of your date.
• You must be clear about what you want to achieve by going for such dates and the time frame involved. If you are looking for marriage, whether you want to get married within 2 years? You should have clear answer to questions like this. One of the reasons people go for date is to get into a relationship. If you are not so serious about the date, you should be clear about what you want from this date.
• Before dating, you should choose the person you want to date carefully. You should go for people of your own level. If you are going date somebody who is very gorgeous or very trendy, you should be prepared for failure.
• You must move around in your neighborhood. You may join clubs, activity groups, sports activities etc. where you will be meeting lots of people. This will lead you to people whom you will like to meet. By remaining inside your home, you will not get such opportunity.

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Marriage agencies that were run by clergymen in England in late eighteenth century could be considered as the precursor of present day dating service. People used to meet dates in social organizations, while interacting in daily life and work or were introduced through their friends or relatives.

But, commercial agencies providing dating service started to develop after the end of World War II. Mostly, people in the age group of 25-44 were using this service. Inserting personal advertisement in newspapers and magazines also became quite common. In this kind of dating service, men and women would contact the dating agency directly to find a suitable partner for them.

With the increasing popularity of the internet, the concept of online dating service started to develop and it has become quite popular by now. According to a research in the United Kingdom, there were about 150 online dating agencies in 2004 and their business was growing by about 20 per cent per year. This is because of the increasing number of single people in the country and setting up these agencies does not require much effort.

People who use these sites generally provide their personal information and then search the site for a partner using different parameters like age, sex, language, religion, educational and social background, location etc. Most of these sites allow people to upload their photos.

But, there will be many profiles which will have no photo. Many dating sites provide the facility of webcasting, online chatting or message boarding. Therefore, you can safely have your date in the privacy of your home using these facilities.

For getting the service of online dating, you have to get registered with these sites. Some of these sites allow you to register free of charge, some may charge you some monthly fee. Some sites have the facility of matching the profiles of their members according to their preferences and give you a list of suitable persons for your selection for date.

The foremost advantage in internet dating is privacy which has been already mentioned earlier. As you are not meeting any person physically, nobody comes to know about it. Your full identity is not revealed. Only what you have mentioned in your profile is revealed to the other person.

It is possible for you to date number of persons using internet dating as the other person would not know about it. It may be that you may be not serious about dating or doing it just for fun using internet dating. It is also possible for you to discontinue your dating with a person. Nobody’s feeling will get hurt if you do so.

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